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Cancelled plans with a friend and self-blame
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A friend cancelled our plans and my first thought was that I must have done something to put them off. It happens with work too — if a meeting goes badly I take responsibility for the whole room's mood.It sounds like you tend to quickly turn situations towards something you've done, even when a friend simply cancels plans. It's like you're carrying the weight of responsibility for more than your share, whether with friends or in work meetings.
01 · Answer any, leave any
Reflective questions
Question 1 of 5
02 · Pick one to try this week
Quick exercises
Write an Imaginary Scene
Spend 5 minutes writing about how your friend might explain the cancelled plans from their own perspective, using details you know about their life.
Self-Responsibility Scale
Rate from 0-10 how responsible you feel for a past group situation at work and how justified that feeling seems now.
Next Time, Notice a Thought
Next time a meeting goes differently than planned, notice the first thought that comes to mind about your role in it.
03 · Bring it to your therapist
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