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Feeling behind compared to peers

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I look at people around my age and they all seem to have things figured out — better jobs, relationships, homes, plans. I feel like I'm behind and the gap is getting wider. I don't even know what I want, which makes it worse because I can't even aim at anything specific.

It's tough when everyone else seems to have their path laid out, and here you are feeling stuck without a clear target. You're noticing a widening gap and it sounds like it's adding a lot of pressure.

01 · Answer any, leave any

Reflective questions

Question 1 of 5

What do you notice first when you compare yourself to your peers?

02 · Pick one to try this week

Quick exercises

Explore current interests
Spend 5 minutes writing about anything that piques your interest, no matter how small or unrelated to career and goals it might seem.
Compare perspectives
Write down the ways in which you think you're behind and ways in which you think you're ahead. Include small things, too.
Looking around exercise
Next time you feel the gap widening, consciously notice one thing about your own situation that you appreciate, however minor it may seem.

03 · Bring it to your therapist

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Reflective questions

Quick exercises

Spend 5 minutes writing about anything that piques your interest, no matter how small or unrelated to career and goals it might seem.

Write down the ways in which you think you're behind and ways in which you think you're ahead. Include small things, too.

Next time you feel the gap widening, consciously notice one thing about your own situation that you appreciate, however minor it may seem.

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